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Tea Reflections… A Lovely Cup of Tea -Jaime Oliver

18 May

Jaime Oliver is a food alchemist and food revolutionary. I highly respect Jaime for his infinite passion, culinary talents and especially his health advocacy. He taught me how to cook after all. I used his Food Revolution book and YouTube videos as guides. As they say, “when the student is ready, the teacher appears.” I was finally ready to learn.

Although I have just started my culinary journey, Jaime Oliver gave me the supportive push to begin. He is such a passionate and gifted teacher. I love to learn from him. He taught me the excitement of cooking through creative expression. Jaime is like an alchemist experimenting and creating in his kitchen laboratory. I am always thrilled to discover his new creations.

{I hope to include more posts on Jaime Oliver in the future}.

 

Jaime asks, “what is your ‘hot toddy’ and herbal drink of choice?”

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In this short video clip, Jaime teaches about herbal teas, herbs and spices; their medicinal/healing properties; how to experiment with flavours; how to make a lovely cup of herbal tea. He uses the cancer-fighting, antioxidant-rich turmeric which also happens to be high in iron. Jaime tells us that you can absorb more iron when you add citrus fruit {vitamin c}. He notes that spices {e.g. cinnamon and fennel seeds} are packed with micronutrients. Herbs are full of nutrients, vitamins and minerals {e.g. thyme is full of calcium}.

Jaime says that heated fruit extracts beautiful flavours; conversely, chilled tea has a different flavour spectrum. I can attest to that as I love to drink hibiscus tea both heated and chilled {which is technically dried hibiscus flowers. My love of hibiscus is profound. I have made hibiscus popsicles in the past. They are so refreshing in the hot summer days}.

Tea is one of my favourite ways to hydrate {along with chlorophyll water}. I drink tea all day and I can agree that it is a lovely way to start and finish the day. How better to reflect on life than over a cup of tea? Most people invite you to go out for coffee but I prefer tea. What about you?

What soothes the soul better than a cup of tea? I agree with Jaime that tea is comforting and therapeutic. Perhaps tea could end wars, mend broken hearts, awaken creative passions, give birth to enlightening ideas and heal relationships? Well, that might be a little unrealistic. The truth is that tea is my elixir of life.

What about you?

Or are you a coffee connoisseur?

Have you tried to make Jaime Oliver’s herbal teas?

What are your favourite teas?

{I hope to explore the science of tea and its healing properties in future tea reflections…

I will also include my favourite teas}.

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Further Research...

Jaime Oliverhttps://www.jamieoliver.com/

Jaime Oliver’s YouTubehttps://www.youtube.com/user/JamieOliver

Food Revolution Book by Jaime Oliverhttps://www.goodreads.com/book/show/8435032-jamie-s-food-revolution

https://www.chapters.indigo.ca/en-ca/books/jamies-food-revolution-rediscover-how/9781401310479-item.html

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For the Love of Tea…

-V.

The Art of Listening In HBO’s In Treatment…

12 May

Listening is truly a lost art.

In Treatment Dr Paul Weston's Hand Gestures

How often do you encounter people in life that you can tell are obviously not listening? It is the most common experience.

Sadly, it has become rare when someone actually listens to you and values what you have to say. 

In Treatment Talk To Me

In Treatment was a half an hour drama on HBO that starred Gabriel Byrne. The show was about the art of listening, psychotherapy, dysfunctions, neuroses, ethics, fears, self-sabotage, mental illness, relationships, conflict, trauma, pain, suffering, healing, resilience, etc.

Compassion and humanity are at the root of psychotherapy and In Treatment respectively. They speak about the deep need to be listened to without judgment. I have a great respect for psychology. It was one of my areas of study and I have intuitively known it is my vocation since childhood.

In treatment was even studied in universities at the time {I am not sure if it still is}. Counselling psychology students discussed in treatment in classes. Its pedagogical purpose was to teach students how to live their potential as psychologist and to help their clients heal.

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In Treatment is like a prism that reflects the spectrum of humanity.

It can be Shakespearean in its dramatic storylines, intimate revelations and profound intellectual discussions.

{Side note: this is Paul’s wave machine in the introduction}.

It is a cerebral show that dives deep into the Alice in wonderland rabbit hole of the psyche. In treatment relies heavily on the art of acting. Gabriel and the rest of the cast really shine in this thirty-minute drama. The skilled actors play off the script, each other, emotions and body language. They have no special effects to rely on- just their acting skills. {Side note: Gabriel won a golden globe for his performance. Many other actors and the show itself were nominated for numerous awards}.

Gabriel’s character is the compassionate Dr.Paul Weston.

He is the wounded healer, secret keeper, listener, teacher and psychologist.

In Treatment He's Listening

Psychotherapy is based on trust and vulnerability- spiritual and emotional nakedness. There is a strong emotional connection between Paul and all of his patients. First, he has to earn their trust and convince them to trust him and open up.

He must analyze their issues beneath the masks they wear.

He has to discern the truth from lies, distortions and projections.

All of his patients have complex problems and dysfunctional patterns of behaviour.

Some are based on the complexities of being in a relationship and sharing a life with someone despite conflicting personalities or desires. With Jake and Amy, Paul is a mediator between them. He uses conflict resolution, helps them clarify their real issues/emotions and helps them decide on their course of action.

Others are more individual problems with roots in childhood.

Regardless of how the trauma manifests itself, what is evident is that Paul is responsible for his patients.

In some cases, he is the only person that his patients have to rely on. 

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In treatment examines many themes. One is the issue of transference.

Transference can happen in the therapeutic process. The psychologist has to maintain their boundaries and respect their professional code of ethics.

How do you treat a patient that thinks they are in love with you?

What if they insist on their declarations of love?

What if they play mind games and employ manipulation?

How do navigate that?

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Intergenerational trauma is another topic that is examined in the show.

Alex is not even aware of the impact of how his father murdered his grandfather traumatized him. He is also not conscious of how his childhood and his father’s toxic masculinity traumatized him.

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How do you deal with the emotional impact of listening to people’s problems all day?

Many psychologists go to their own psychologist for therapy and to consult about their patients. Paul goes to Gina for this purpose. Their relationship is quite strained but he desperately needs that outlet.

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Some quotes from this video stood out to me in particular…

“It is hard to see so many people in pain and not be able to do anything to help them in some way.” -Paul

“Maybe helping is easier than feeling the pain.” -Laura

I can attest to this feeling of helplessness. It is very painful for me to see or know that someone is in pain without being able to do anything to ease their suffering.

Laura’s observation has some merit. Sometimes it is easier to help than feel. Sometimes it just hurts too much.

“We are not Gods, we can’t save anybody.” -Gina

Gina’s statement is true.

We cannot save anybody.

We can only help them to save themselves.

“It is possible to live in a world where people panic, where people let each other down, where they disappoint each other but still help each other out.” -Paul

I think this is the most realistic observation.

It is still possible to help each other despite our flaws and limitations.

Paul asks Alex where he wants his therapy to lead him. He answers painfully, “some place where I feel less shitty about myself.”

There is something in Blair Underwood’s voice when he says “some place where I feel less shitty about myself.” We can all relate to this sentiment.

“I thought that is what we are on the earth for- to help each other- to step up to the plate when somebody needs us.” -Paul

I have to agree with Paul.

I think it is noble to derive your life’s purpose from altruism and compassion.

Finding meaning in helping others is something I can deeply relate to.

“There are other places where you can feel safe and here in this room is one of those places.” -Paul

The therapist’s office is like a sanctuary from the chaos of the world.

Paul really wants to help his patients find their own answers to enlighten themselves, empower themselves and solve their problems.

With Sophie, Paul wanted her to have her own epiphanies.

In this scene, Sophie has empowered herself enough to confront her father on his abandonment and absence as a father.

Paul’s role is not to be the judge but to guide them to reconnect and re-establish their relationship. The journey is painful but worthwhile.

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Paul’s observations/analysis is incisive.

He really gets to the root of his patient’s suffering.

{It reminds me of Robin Williams’ character the psychologist Sean McGuire in Goodwill Hunting}.

His patients always challenge him and often test his boundaries.

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It should be noted that Paul has his own problems to contend with.

I think it is vital to observe that psychologists are human and imperfect. They have to deal with their own life and its challenges while trying to help others heal and figure out their life’s labyrinth.

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Happy birthday to Gabriel Byrne today!!!

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Further Research

Gabriel Byrnehttps://www.byrneholics.com/

Gabriel Byrne’s Internet Movie Database Page

In TreatmentIn Treatment’s Internet Movie Database Page

In Treatment’s HBO Page

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Have you watched In Treatment?

What did you think?

You can watch it on HBO’s website {for a price}.

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Rest in peace to Irrfan Khan who recently died {April 29th, 2020}.

He brilliantly played Sunil in the third season.

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Peace & Compassion,

-V.

Reflection for today…A False Friend Is A Hidden Enemy -Buddha

31 Dec

“A good friend who points out mistakes and imperfections and rebukes evil is to be respected.

An insincere and evil friend is to be more feared than a wild beast;

a wild beast may wound your body,

but an evil friend will wound your mind.”

-Buddha

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It is so tragic to realize that your heart was in the right place with the wrong person. How could you be so wrong? How could you see a soulmate in someone that wasn’t even a friend? They were wearing a mask all along. How sobering and terrifying it is to realize that Judas the traitor was by your side all of this time?

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Loyalty is of the utmost importance to me and it coexists alongside respect. I gave my loyal unto death necklace to someone that didn’t deserve it. Curiously, it got stolen from that person. (Now I am wondering if they gave it to someone else and lied about it getting stolen).

They were not meant to have it because they were not worthy of my loyalty or friendship. I am the one that is loyal unto death. I have to learn to be more discerning with my loyalty and friendship because it is so dangerous and painful to be loyal to the wrong people.

Loyal Unto Death Inox Dog Tag Necklace

I found this image on Pinterest. I am hoping to buy another necklace for myself but I haven’t found one. I love the sword piercing through the heart. The message of loyalty represents who I am at my core.

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Please enjoy You Got Me By The Roots Featuring Erykah Badu…

I love when Black Thought says,

I deal with the real,

if it is artificial then let it be.”

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You Got Me

The Roots

VERIFIED COMMENTARY BY

YOU GOT ME LYRICS

[Chorus: Erykah Badu]
“If you were worried ’bout where
I been or who I saw or
What club I went to with my homies
Baby, don’t worry, you know that you got me
If you were worried ’bout where
I been or who I saw or
What club I went to with my homies
Baby, don’t worry, you know that you got me[Verse 1: Black Thought]
SomebodyTold me that this planet was small, we used to live inThe same building, on the same floor, and never met before


Until I’m overseas on tour, and peeped this Ethiopian
Queen from Philly taking classes abroad
She studying film and photo, flash, focus, record
Said she working on a flick and could my clique do the score
She said she loved my show in Paris at Elysee Montmartre
And that I stepped off the stage and took a piece of her heart
We knew from the start that things fall apart and tend to shatter
She like, “That shit don’t matter.” When I get home, get at her
Through letter, phone, whatever; let’s link, let’s get together
Shit, you think not, think the Thought went home and forgot?
Time passed, we back in Philly, now she up in my spot
Telling me the things I’m telling her is making her hot
Starting building with her constantly round-the-clock
Now she in my world like hip-hop, and keep telling me…

[Chorus: Erykah Badu]
If you were worried ’bout where
I been or who I saw or
What club I went to with my homies
Baby, don’t worry, you know that you got me
If you were worried ’bout where
I been or who I saw or
What club I went to with my homies
Baby, don’t worry, you know that you got me

[Verse 2: Black Thought + Eve]
Yo, I’m the type that’s always catching a flight

And sometimes I gotta be out at the height of the night

And that’s when she flip and get on some old… another lonely night
Seem like I’m on the side, you only loving your mic
I know you gotta get that paper, daddy, keep that shit tight
But, yo, I need some sort of love in my life, you dig me?
While politicking with my sister from New York City
She said she know this ball player and he think I’m pretty—psych
I’m playin’, boo, you know it’s just with you I’m staying, boo
And when cats be poppin’ game, I don’t hear what they sayin’, boo
When you out there in the world, I’m still your girl
With all my classes I don’t have the time for life’s thrills
So when you sweating on stage, think of me when you rhyme
And don’t be listening to your homies, they be leadin’ you blind
Yeah, so what you saying, I can trust you? Is you crazy?! You my king for real
But sometimes relationships get ill, no doubt

[Chorus: Erykah Badu]
If you were worried ’bout where
I been or who I saw or
What club I went to with my homies
Baby, don’t worry, you know that you got me
If you were worried ’bout where
I been or who I saw or
What club I went to with my homies
Baby, don’t worry, you know that you got me

[Verse 3: Black Thought]
That snake could be that chick and that rat could be that cool cat

That’s whispering, “She trying to play you for the fool, Black.”
If something’s on your chest, then let it be known
See, I’m not your every five minutes all on the phone
And on the topic of trust, it’s just a matter of fact
That people bite back and fracture what’s intact
And they’ll forever be, I ain’t on some “Oh, I’m a celebrity!”
I deal with the real, so if it’s artificial, let it be

I’ve seen people caught in love like whirlwinds
Listening to their squads and listening to girlfriends
That’s exactly the point where their whole world ends
Lies come in, that’s where that drama begins, and she like…

[Chorus: Erykah Badu]
If you were worried ’bout where
I been or who I saw or
What club I went to with my homies
Baby, don’t worry, you know that you got me
If you were worried ’bout where
I been or who I saw or
What club I went to with my homies
Baby, don’t worry, you know that you got me
If you were worried ’bout where
I been or who I saw or
What club I went to with my homies
Baby, don’t worry, you know that you got me
If you were worried ’bout where
I been or who I saw or
What club I went to with my homies
Baby, don’t worry, you know that you got me
If you were worried ’bout where
I been or who I saw or…”

Copied from: https://genius.com/The-roots-you-got-me-lyrics
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Living the pain and poetry of truth is more fulfilling than living a facade.

Has this ever happened to you? How did you handle it?

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Peace & Truth,

-V.

Reflection for today…Love Amnesia -Charles Bukowski

1 Aug

“I remember awakening one morning and finding everything smeared with the color of forgotten love.”  
Charles Bukowski

What Matters Most is How Well You Walk Through the Fire

Lost Love*

This quote speaks about forgotten love but…what if you haven’t forgotten?

What if you remember everything {no matter how much time has gone by}?

What if you don’t suffer from”love amnesia”?

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Please enjoy Past Mistake by Tricky

{This song is what you wish the person that hurt you felt about you}…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0U1-AHyYxhU

The Extended Version {for hardcore Tricky fans like myself}…

I just adore this song and I cannot stop listening to it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lYfrRoxc-kw

“I realize, there’s no compromise
Through lion eyes, my lover
Just wasn’t there, even though I care
Did I hurt you bad? did I make you sad?

I know I paid, that’s why I’m alone today
Just me and myself, no mental health
My mistakes overtakes
Your love’s overgrown, my love walks alone

My love, my love, my love for you
My love, my love, my love for you

Now I wonder why, until we die
And then, upon your praise
Hope Jesus come to kill the mourn
I feel again, I love you then

Oceans of time, across divine
I found you, I will find you
That is not my time, my time to take
For me to sing our lover’s song 

My love, my love, my love for you
My love, my love, my love for you

‘Til it burns my soul
Burns my soul
Burns a hole

My love, my love, my love for you
My love, my love, my love for you.

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Doesn’t the line “oceans of time, across divine

I found you” remind you of the scene in Dracula…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tg_GW3HmKVY

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For more information…

Charles Bukowski…http://bukowski.net/

Tricky…http://www.trickysite.com/ 

Dracula Film…http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0103874/?ref_=nv_sr_3

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Peace & Namaste

Reflection for today…Keeping Memories Alive -Haruki Murakami

19 Feb

“No matter how much suffering you went through,

you never wanted to let go of those memories.” 
Haruki Murakami

Pinned Image

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Most of the pictures are from the brilliant film Eternal Sunshine of The Spotless Mind.

I highly recommend it!

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Please enjoy “The Only Thing I Know” by Gotye

http://www.youtube.com/watch?NR=1&v=QvnJaq6VD7U&feature=endscreen

“I’m living with your memory
In the attic in my mind
And you’ve been getting by without me
But I’ve been spending all my time
With a girl that I remember
Who’ll never leave or need to grow
Cos when you left you left your memory
Now it’s the only thing I know

When the past gives me no comfort
And though the future is the cost
The way I’m choosing to remember
I’ll forever be the man I never was

And you, you fade
But the memory remains the same
And I, I can’t change
And I think that living with your memory
Is slowly driving me insane

You are perfect but you’re empty
And it gets so lonely in my mind
Cos your image in my memory’s
The only shred of you that’s left behind
You were real but then you left me
And that’s the part I can’t accept
So I’ll keep on living with your memory
Because it’s all that I’ve got left.”

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For more information…

 Haruki Murakami…http://www.murakami.ch/main_2.html

or his official UK website: http://www.murakamibooks.co.uk/

Gotye’s Official Website…http://gotye.com/

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Peace & Namaste…

Reflection for today…Respect Your Love -Jimi Hendrix

12 Feb

“Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts.

Don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.” 
Jimi Hendrix

Jimi Hendrix: A Sensitive Soul…

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This valentines day don’t get seduced by fabricated love and consumerist “romantic” marketing- in other words…fake love.

Remember…

You deserve all of someone’s heart- not just a tattered and bruised corner.

You deserve the universe- not mere crumbs.

You deserve the highest respect, reverence and compassion.

You don’t need to fight to get someone’s attention or love.

If they love you and care about you, they will give it willingly.

There will be no need for convincing.

They will see you and know who you are.

They will accept who you are without question.

They will look for you.

They will find you.

They will call you or write you and not wait for you to chase them.

They will take the initiative and make the effort if they really care.

They will swim shark infested waters- or at least the ocean.

They will climb mountains, slay dragons, go to hell and get out of hell to find you.

They will visit you in the hospital or jail- if they are brave enough they might even help you break out.

They will give you their kidney if necessary.

Remember that love is shown in actions and not hollow words.

Remember that love is loyalty and loyalty is love.

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There is a huge difference between a heart of gold and a gold-plated one.

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Please enjoy …

Chris Cornell- Arms Around Your Love…

Chris Cornell- Arms Around Your Love Official Video…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yu01eOXABBg

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KMGtZnuE1Vc

“With his arms around your love
Oh no, here comes the pain that you can’t ignore

With his arms around your girl
He’ll do all of the things you didn’t do before
You had every chance, but you closed the door

[Chorus]
Now you’re just gonna have to take it
(‘Cause if you didn’t  know)
She’s gonna make you pay for it
(Price you can’t afford)
You’re  just gonna have to take it
With his arms around your love [Repeat: x3]

Oh, yeah

Pretend that you don’t mind
But you know everything that you left behind

And it would have been alright
If you’d gave half of  the praise that you held inside
You thought she’d hang around for the ride

[Chorus]

Coming clean feels so dangerous
Just a little bit would have been enough
But you never said all the words caught in your head

As if your heart was dead
Well now its surely bled and broken up

And it would have been alright
If you’d gave half of the praise that you held inside
You thought she’d hang around for the ride

[Chorus]

(Take it) With his arms around your love
(Pay for it) With his arms around your love
With his arms around your love
With his arms around your love.”

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For more information…

Jimi Hendrix…http://www.jimihendrix.com/us/home

Chris Cornell…http://chriscornell.com/home/

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Sending you seeds of self-love, self-respect and dignity…

Peace & Namaste…

Reflection for today…First Love Archetype -Chuck Klosterman

27 Jul

“But I still feel like I lost.

We all have the potential to fall in love a thousand times in our lifetime.

It’s easy.

The first girl I ever loved was someone I knew in the sixth grade. Her name was Missy; we talked about horses.

The last girl I love will be someone I haven’t even met yet. probably.

They all count.

But there are certain people you love who do something else;

they define how you classify what love is supposed to feel like.

These are the most important people in your life, and you’ll meet maybe four or five of these people over the span of 80 years.

But there’s still one more tier to all this; there is always one person you love who becomes that definition. It usually happens retrospectively, but it always happens eventually. This is the person who unknowingly sets the template for what you will always love about other people, even if some of those lovable qualities are self-destructive and unreasonable.

You will remember having conversations with this person that never actually happened. You will recall sexual trysts with this person that never technically occurred. This is because the individual who embodies your personal definition of love does not really exist. The person is real, and the feelings are real-but you create the context. And context is everything.

 The person who defines your understanding of love is not inherently different than anyone else, and they’re often just the person you happen to meet first time you really, really want to love someone.

But that person still wins. They win, and you lose.

Because for the rest of your life, they will control how you feel about everyone else.
― Chuck KlostermanKilling Yourself to Live: 85% of a True Story

Do you agree with Chuck Klosterman?
Is your first love the “archetype” of all of your future loves?
What if your first love did not love you???
What if they did not treat you with the respect and reverence that you so deserve???

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Peace & Namaste…

Break Me Gently…Honesty Breaks Down Walls in High Fidelity

14 Jul

News | How Erykah Badu Broke it Off With Rapper Common! | Singersroom

The reason that I decided to share this is because I wanted to briefly discuss break-ups.

I really respect how Erykah Badu was so honest with Common.

Although it hurt him to tell him the truth about her change of heart, in the end it was better for Common. 

He grew and learned from the experience.

It was his first love and first heart-break. Now he says that he and Erykah are “cool” again.

Why couldn’t everyone be so honest in regards to break-ups?

Imagine if someone told you the truth instead of a cheap, prostituted line…

“It’s not you, it’s me.” 

*Who really believes that anyway? Come on, please. Don’t even…

If people were more honest about why they really want to leave their significant other, then perhaps the other person would learn so much more and have better closure.

Perhaps this communication could break down some walls and infuse some new life in the old friendship and romance.

Who knows, perhaps this new-found honesty might create some new-found intimacy and the break-up might even be avoided.

Perhaps things fall apart to come together…

Perhaps I am dreaming of a utopian vision of reality because I know that most of the time things just fall apart.

{I know that relationships and break-ups especially are more complicated than this post describes}.

Regardless, if a couple has to part ways, it would be ideal if they each respected each other enough to really be honest with each other.

By not telling someone the truth, you are potentially taking away opportunities for growth. 

You are also really damaging their self-esteem, self-worth and confidence because they are left to wonder what is wrong with them.

They can only think that something is inherently wrong with themselves..

How else can they know what they did wrong if you don’t tell them? How else can they improve, learn, grow and change?

Thankfully one can still do some self-reflection in order to find healing, growth and closure on your own. 

You can learn from your mistakes.

*Of course your learning, growth and healing is not the other person’s responsibility.

{That is not at all what I am saying. Your learning, growth and healing is always your responsibility.

It would be so helpful to get that honesty, respect and communication from the person that once claimed to love and care about you}.

If both are ready and willing to battle their egos, then perhaps they can truly listen, share and learn.

At least both can learn what they did wrong from the mutual constructive criticism and feedback.

They will know why the other is jumping ship instead of just being left out in the cold  {or the rain} all alone.

Leaving someone guessing is just too cruel to do to someone’s heart, mind, life and soul- especially to someone who you used to like, love or at least be attracted to. This only further hurts someone that loved and adored you.

Don’t they deserve better from you?

{Leaving crumbs of false hope is an even more heartless thing to do to someone. Giving someone false hope so selfishly makes it painful for them to move on and to heal}. 

No one deserves to over-analyze and be haunted by what they possibly could have done wrong.They deserve better and if you are the dumped person, then so do you.

{Of course there always are exceptions and sadly not every break-up is amicable}.

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P.s. I highly recommend watching the movie High Fidelity (where most of the pictures from this post are from).

It is an excellent movie and my favourite break-up movie of all time next to Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind}. 

Plus I adore John Cusack.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=seSLhjX4uA0

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LxDMzbxPQx8&feature=relmfu

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rmmq2ozbIFY&feature=relmfu

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=puOQuQI83lw&feature=relmfu

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J2oP8YO7F5A&feature=relmfu

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-dRiD-giCTc&feature=relmfu

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jeL32rVtvic&feature=relmfu

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hmk12K5dFno&feature=relmfu

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZ1vNa-fzX0&feature=fvwrel

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5b9rbDeE9ZE&feature=fvwrel

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I also recommend a song that I love called “Break Me Gently” by Doves.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jHtNGaaXSqs

It was part of the inspiration for this post {along with High Fidelity}.

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The learn more about Doves, please click here:

http://www.doves.net/

Love is Just A Bloodsport- Sneaker Pimps

20 Jun

There is something about listening to Sneaker Pimp’s Bloodsport that does something to me.

Chris Corner‘s angelic and seductive voice is so hypnotic.

The thesis of the song is that love is just a blood sport.”

Almost every one of us has been in a romantic situation where we have felt like we have gotten beat up emotionally, spiritually, psychologically and metaphorically; hence the bloodsport analogy.

{Other times perhaps we may have been the one instigating the fight}.

It seems as though when you become vulnerable, many times you are hurt.

One thing that I say all the time is that people often mistake kindness for weakness.

In this case, people can mistake love for foolishness and weakness.

For this reason, people tend to put up walls, put on masks and have metaphorical knives up their sleeves to protect themselves from getting hurt. These same walls that protect you can eventually become a prison so you become mindful of how thick your walls are and of who you allow in.

It reminds me of one of my favourite Rumi quotes. {I have had this as my email signature for years and it is still there}.

“Your task is not to seek for love,

but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself

that you have built against it.”

-Rumi

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So one day you let the walls down and let someone in…

It is so beautiful when love is intimate, passionate, gentle and kind.

This is the utopian version of love- a compassionate union of souls; the type of love that Rumi wrote poems about- friendship set on fire- intimacy at its most pure, most spiritual and its best.

Spiritual Reflection Lovers

What Are You But My Spiritual Reflection???

The truth is that as much as all of us want that type of love, we don’t always find it because it is so elusive and rare.

Most are not ready or brave enough for true intimacy- to open one’s soul to another- to be spiritually naked without any armour…to risk really getting hurt while loving.

As a friend always used to say,

“If you risk nothing,

you risk everything.”

The question is…are you willing to risk everything?

Love isn’t a blood sport.

Is it?

What do you think?

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Bloodsport Lyrics:

I want to be a kid again
Come down having Sunday best
See me staying home bunking school
Knowing wrong from right just rules

I wish I’d never seen your face
Better done wonder phase
I need an echo, not your praise
Straying from the god you nailed

My mother, my mother, my mother never told
My mother, my mother, my mother never told me
Love is just a bloodsport
Love is just a bloodsport

‘Cause love is just a bloodsport
Love is just a bloodsport

Sex and love is not a game
A game is something you can win
Maybe something kind of fun
‘Cause love is just a bloodsport, son

My mother, my mother, my mother never told
My mother, my mother, my mother never told me

Never told me
Never told me

‘Cause love is just a bloodsport
Love is just a bloodsport
‘Cause love is just a bloodsport
Love is just a bloodsport

‘Cause love is just a bloodsport
Love is just a bloodsport
‘Cause love is just a bloodsport
Love is just a bloodsport

“Bloodsport” as written by Steve Strange, Rusty Egan, Billy Currie, Midge Ure, John Mcgeogh, David Tomlinson, Barry Adamson, Liam Coverdale-howe,, Chris Corner, Ian Pickering
Lyrics © Warner/Chappell Music, Inc., Universal Music Publishing Group, EMI Music Publishing

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For more information…

Chris Corner…http://iamxmusic.com

Somebody That I Used To Know -Gotye featuring Kimbra

16 Feb

We all have somebody that we “used to know.”
That person from a past life that is now a ghost.
{Once so intimate, now so distant}.
Previously best friends and lovers, now old flames and strangers.

I’ve always wondered what kind of mathematics turns friends & lovers into strangers?


Is it time? Distance? Pain? Anger? Disappointment? Betrayal?
Worst of all: indifference?

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*I Love Gotye‘s Music & Videos!!!
He {Gotye/Wally de Backer} is so creative and talented.

Gotye sings this song with so much passion.

You can see it in his eyes.

Most likely this song comes out of life experience- like some great art does.

To learn more about this Australian musical genius, please click on this link:
 http://www.gotye.com/

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Somebody That I Used To Know lyrics

Now and then I think of when we were together
Like when you said you felt so happy you could die
Told myself that you were right for me
But felt so lonely in your company
But that was love and it’s an ache I still remember

You can get addicted to a certain kind of sadness
Like resignation to the end
Always the end
So when we found that we could not make sense
Well you said that we would still be friends
But I’ll admit that I was glad that it was over

But you didn’t have to cut me off
Make out like it never happened
And that we were nothing

And I don’t even need your love
But you treat me like a stranger
And that feels so rough
You didn’t have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect your records
And then change your number
I guess that I don’t need that though
Now you’re just somebody that I used to know

Now and then I think of all the times you screwed me over
But had me believing it was always something that I’d done

And I don’t wanna live that way
Reading into every word you say
You said that you could let it go
And I wouldn’t catch you hung up on somebody that you used to know…

But you didn’t have to cut me off
Make out like it never happened
And that we were nothing

And I don’t even need your love
But you treat me like a stranger
And that feels so rough
You didn’t have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect your records
And then change your number
I guess that I don’t need that though
Now you’re just somebody that I used to know

I used to know
That I used to know

Somebody…
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Peace & Namaste…