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Self-Love Reflections…Power Is Not Being Destroyed By Rejection -Madonna

14 Sep

I fell in love with Madonna’s reflection. It resonated with me very deeply. I found Madonna’s observation to be wise and powerful. We are taught since childhood that the love others give us {or don’t give us} defines us. We are enslaved with a hunger for validation. What a challenge it is to emancipate yourself from this invisible slavery. {Social media has only exacerbated this problem}.

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Rejection manifests itself in a myriad of ways. Being told you are not loved is the most obvious. Being shown you are not loved is more insidious. I cannot discern which is more damaging. Whatever the situation is, rejection can haunt you- especially in childhood. Unfortunately, children tend to internalize rejection and take it personally.

Being rejected really tests your capacity to love yourself. Is receiving someone’s love a litmus test of your self-worth? Who gets to decide if you are “good enough?” Does rejection mean there is something inherently wrong with you? Are you going to throw your power away and shrink from rejection? It is so seductive to reject yourself because someone else did. {Did I mention how much it deeply hurts you- your heart, soul, ego, etc?}.

The aforementioned used to be my response as I misinterpreted rejection’s painful meaning. I would reject myself because someone else did. Fortunately or unfortunately, I have met rejection’s gaze many times and am learning from the confrontations. Now I see rejection as a test of self-love/self-worth/self-esteem/self-respect and an opportunity to build resilience.

I have broken away from those old toxic paradigms and I am healing those childhood wounds. Being rejected simply means that I am not that person’s cup of tea. There is nothing more to do than to move on. There is no need to try to convince the person of your value. If they don’t know what you are worth then that is your answer.

Walk away with your dignity intact.

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Further Research

Madonnahttps://www.madonna.com/

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Peace & Self-Love,

-V.

Reflection for today…Failure Is A Greater Teacher Than Success- Dr.Clarissa Pinkola Estes

19 Jul

“Though fairy tales end after ten pages, our lives do not.

We are multi-volume sets.

In our lives, even though one episode amounts to a crash and burn, there is always another episode awaiting us and then another.

There are always more opportunities to get it right, to fashion our lives in the ways we deserve to have them.

Don’t waste your time hating a failure.

Failure is a greater teacher than success.”

-Dr.Clarissa Pinkola Estés

Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype 

To learn more about Dr.Clarissa Pinkola Estés and Women Who Run With the Wolves book,

please click on this link:

http://www.clarissapinkolaestes.com/women_who_run_with_the_wolves__myths_and_stories_of_the_wild_woman_archetype_101250.htm