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“Yo estaba bien Por un tiempo Volviendo a sonreir Luego anoche te vi Tu mano me toco Y el saludo de tu voz Te hable muy bien y tu sin saber Que he estado
Llorando por tu amor Llorando por tu amor
Luego de tu adios Senti todo mi dolor Sola y llorando Llorando Llorando Llorando
No es facil de entender Que al verte otra vez Yo estoy llorando
Yo que pense Que te olvide Pero es verdad es la verdad Que te quiero mas Mucho mas que ayer Dime tu que puedo hacer
No me quieres ya Y siempre estare
Llorando por tu amor Llorando por tu amor
Tu amor se llevo Todo mi corazon Y quedo llorando Llorando Llorando Llorando Llorando Llorando
When I was a child my mother taught me to respect people. What she didn’t tell me is that you need to have boundaries so that people will respect you. Not only do you have to have boundaries but you have to strictly enforce them as well.
I used to be so afraid of confrontations and of speaking up. I would always worry that I might upset, hurt or offend someone. To an extent, I was also afraid of being disliked and rejected. Since I did not like myself, I was so hungry for other people’s approval {even though I did not consciously know it at the time}.
The price of this silence was putting up with some disrespect. I would be lying if I said that I didn’t regret it because I deeply regret it. I also have to acknowledge that without these experiences, then I would not have come to these realizations.
They are lessons that I am still learning and life only keeps offering you more tests.
Being “nice” is an invitation for people to test your boundaries. These days, I would much rather have respect than just be a “nice” person. It seems like a universal law that unless you respect yourself then no one truly will.
Another thing that I learned is that some people do not deserve your respect or your presence in their lives. Please let me clarify what I mean. Everyone deserves basic respect as human beings. The respect that I am speaking about is the respect that people earn through their friendship, loyalty and compassion. Some people just do not deserve that level of respect from you. Some people do not deserve your friendship, loyalty and compassion.
Trust and respect need to be earned for them to hold any gravitas/weight.
