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Reflection for today…Love Vs. Infatuation -Chuck Klosterman

4 Nov

“I have never understood the concept of infatuation.

It has always been my understanding that being ‘infatuated’ with someone means you think you are in love, but you’re actually not; infatuation is (supposedly) just a foolish, fleeting feeling.

But if being ‘in love’ is an abstract notion, and it’s not tangible, and there is no way to physically prove it to anyone else…

well, how is being in love any different than having an infatuation?

They’re both human constructions.

If you think you’re in love with someone and you feel like you’re in love with someone, then you obviously are; thinking and feeling is the sum total of what love is.

Why do we feel an obligation to certify emotions with some kind of retrospective, self-imposed authenticity?” 

― Chuck Klosterman,

Killing Yourself to Live: 85% of a True Story

Love Or Infatuation

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Please enjoy Think I’m In Love by Beck

From The Basement Version…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5S1wL87JywI

Original Video Version…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A7WdKAvZ2ec

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Do you agree with Chuck Klosterman?

Why or why not?

Are the concepts of love and infatuation too cerebral/intellectual and abstract?

Are they not emotive enough?

Can love truly be defined?

Why do we constantly need to define things?

Why can’t we just let them be? 

infatuation-vs-love

*Is the role of art to define love or is it the goal of life?

Are feelings of love more or less valid than thoughts of love?

{I think it all counts but I believe love is shown in actions}.

How can you prove your love?

Doesn’t infatuation sound so immature as opposed to love?

{I think love is mature and infatuation is immature}.

Is infatuation always temporary?

infatuation-definition1

{It is interesting to note that most poets/authors/musicians/artists write and sing more about love and not infatuation}. Why do you think that is?

Is infatuation dangerous?

Infatuation Vs. Love

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For more information…

Chuck Klosterman…

http://pages.simonandschuster.com/chuckklosterman 

http://twitter.com/CKlosterman

Beck…http://www.beck.com

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Peace & Namaste…

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Love is Just A Bloodsport…Sneaker Pimps

20 Jun

There is something about listening to Sneaker Pimp’s Bloodsport that does something to me.

Chris Corner‘s angelic and seductive voice is so hypnotic.

The thesis of the song is that, “love is just a blood sport.”

Almost every one of us has been in a romantic situation where we have felt like we have gotten beat up emotionally, spiritually, psychologically and metaphorically; hence the bloodsport analogy.

{Other times perhaps we may have been the one instigating the fight}.

It seems as though when you become vulnerable, many times you are hurt.

One thing that I say all the time is that people often mistake kindness for weakness.

In this case, people can mistake love for foolishness and weakness.

For this reason, people tend to put up walls, put on masks and have knives up their sleeves to protect themselves from getting hurt. These same walls that protect you can eventually become a prison so you become mindful of how thick your walls are and of who you allow in.

It reminds me of one of my favourite Rumi quotes. {I have had this as my email signature for years and it is still there}.

“Your task is not to seek for love,

but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself

that you have built against it.”

-Rumi

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So one day you let the walls down and let someone in…

It is so beautiful when love is intimate, passionate, gentle and kind.

This is the utopian version of love- a compassionate union of souls; the type of love that Rumi wrote poems about- friendship set on fire- intimacy at its most pure, most spiritual and its best.

What are you but my spiritual reflection?

The truth is that as much as all of us want that type of love, we don’t always find it because it is so elusive and rare.

Most are not ready or brave enough for true intimacy- to open one’s soul to another- to be spiritually naked without any armour…to risk really getting hurt while loving.

As a friend always used to say,

“If you risk nothing,

you risk everything.”

The question is…are you willling to risk everything?

Love isn’t a bloodsport.

Bloodsport Lyrics:

I want to be a kid again
Come down having Sunday best
See me staying home bunking school
Knowing wrong from right just rules

I wish I’d never seen your face
Better done wonder phase
I need an echo, not your praise
Straying from the god you nailed

My mother, my mother, my mother never told
My mother, my mother, my mother never told me
Love is just a bloodsport
Love is just a bloodsport

‘Cause love is just a bloodsport
Love is just a bloodsport

Sex and love is not a game
A game is something you can win
Maybe something kind of fun
‘Cause love is just a bloodsport, son

My mother, my mother, my mother never told
My mother, my mother, my mother never told me

Never told me
Never told me

‘Cause love is just a bloodsport
Love is just a bloodsport
‘Cause love is just a bloodsport
Love is just a bloodsport

‘Cause love is just a bloodsport
Love is just a bloodsport
‘Cause love is just a bloodsport
Love is just a bloodsport

“Bloodsport” as written by Steve Strange, Rusty Egan, Billy Currie, Midge Ure, John Mcgeogh, David Tomlinson, Barry Adamson, Liam Coverdale-howe,, Chris Corner, Ian Pickering
Lyrics © Warner/Chappell Music, Inc., Universal Music Publishing Group, EMI Music Publishing